Sunday, March 27, 2011

Reach Out For Help....

My father got the phone call on our way home from our most recent fishing excursion, and I knew something had gone wrong, terribly wrong. 

"Oh my god, I'm so sorry" was all my father could say.  He went ashen white as he stared blankly out the window of our car.

One of his best friends, former co-worker,  hunting and fishing buddy, had committed suicide.

Life had come up and smacked us in the face.  Miles burned by without much to say other than to soak up the somber news.

Today we attended his funeral.  Full military honors, 21 gun solute and a church full of mourning people.  Stories were told of his character, his love for family, the little things he did to brighten others lives. 

My father's friend committing suicide and the packed church at his funeral got me thinking long and hard about why things ended as they have.  Nobody will ever know why this happened as that secret was taken into the afterlife.  

The human mind is an intensely powerful thing.  It makes us forget what is important, and how many people do love you.  Here you have a gentlemen that was loved by hundreds and my guess is that he felt like he was on his own personal island of depression. 

I have dealt with anxiety issues and have felt the power of imbalance.  It can make you think in ways no other will or can understand unless they too have gone through it.  While suicide has and will never be an option,  I understand what our minds can make us do

What I want everyone to take from this is that if you ever feel like your by are absolutely not.  Think of that church today.  It was full.  FULL.

If you do feel alone, make yourself this promise now to reach out for help.  Tell someone what's going on.  Dont be a tough guy and keep it all within because it doesnt work.  Talk to a friend, a co worker, anyone. 

Start the process of going to see a trained professional.  The old stigma of seeing a shrink makes you a weak person is as far from the truth as possible.  Try thinking of your brain as a muscle.  When you pull a muscle, you rehab it.  The same goes for your knoggin.  It can only get better

Again, reach out and talk.  There's more people out there who love you than you know.


  1. man that is horendous news. sorry for your dad's loss

  2. Very well put Josh..

    I am so sorry. Please give your father my best.

  3. So sorry to hear about this Josh...

  4. After enjoying the video, I noticed your post.
    I am so very sorry for your dad's loss and all who miss him.
    I thank you for the above post. I believe that it is very meaningful.

  5. Im sorry. As a therapist, who sees these issues daily, I know just how prevalent mental health disorders are in our society, and how easily masked the symptoms are. I appreciate your post and strongly support that reaching out is the first step to mental health. Living in your head can be a dark place.

  6. So sorry for the loss of your father's friend. Very well said - thanks for sharing!